Before we get started on today’s topic, I want to extend an apology for a delay in the start of our “getting our finances straight” series. My BFF (who has wizard-level knowledge of such things) has had a medical situation in her family that has slurped up all of her blog post writing time. Fret not! Her family member is well on the way to a spiffy recovery, and that financial series will be coming at you soon. 🙂
So, what are we going to talk about today? Loving your home. Yep, that’s it.
Well, because a lot of us (including myself at one point in time) use our living situations as a sort of excuse or crutch for bad behavior…bad behavior like not caring for our things and home environment.
But here’s the thing…no matter where we live, it’s where we live. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a super-temporary apartment, a tiny loft, a “fixer upper,” or a huge manor…it’s your home. It’s where your people, your pets, your stuff, and your life are happening.
I live in a house built in the 1960s…old enough to lack anything fancy and modern (no stone counter tops or space for a stacked washer and dryer here), but too new to be considered “charming and quaint.” There are no straight angles anywhere in this place…not where the floors meet the walls or where the doors meet the door frames…in some rooms, the floor doesn’t even fall into a flat plane. Nope, we have small hills and valleys in our floors from this “settling” that houses apparently do. Our fireplace has some sort of mystical portal to the outside. Though we’ve tried and tried, we’ve never found the magical opening that allows wasps to enter John’s office…or, for that matter, tree frogs into the laundry room…or mice into the broom closet.
And I love this place! Love it! It’s quirky and has oddities and it’s ours. My husband and I snuggle up to watch old episodes of Iron Chef in that wavy living room. (The living room that houses my favorite dinosaur skeleton print and the huge clock that perpetually reads 12:06…the thing ticks too loud, so we removed the batteries and set the time to match our wedding anniversary.) We have family dinner every night in that dining room with the wonky door. We are a family here. Our favorite stuff is here. We laugh, giggle, play, learn, yell, hug, relax, dance, and share here. For better or worse, this is our home.
Are there things I would like to change or improve? Absolutely! And, as our budget allows, we tackle repairs and improvements. Currently, we’re saving for a new roof. (Did I mention that it leaks in a couple of spots? But only when it’s raining hard and the wind is blowing a particular direction. Strange that.)
Do the oddities and “problems” keep me from respecting, loving, appreciating, and caring for my home? Why, heck nope!
Don’t wait to love your home.
Love it now for what it is. Embrace the quirks. Giggle at the strangeness.
And then treat that place like it’s the freakin’ Taj Mahal. Clean it. Decorate it. Improve what you can. (If you’re a renter or on a tight budget, that might be limited…but do what you can.) Take care of it.
Make a list of everything you love about your home and stick it to the refrigerator if you need a reminder. (Even if that list only includes things like “keeps the snow off my bed” and “keeps my collection of porcelain watermelons from being stolen.”)
Because, ultimately, we have two choices with our homes (assuming we don’t have enough bank to just move…which I know most of us don’t): We can focus on the negatives and use those as an excuse to let things fall into further disrepair and chaos…all while constantly longing for something that we may never have. Orrrr we can focus on the positive, do our best to care for and improve our homes, and appreciate what we have right now. Neither choice changes where we live, but it does seem like the choice we make changes how we live.
But wait! Does loving where we live mean never aspiring to nicer digs? Absolutely not! Just because you’re going to have filet mignon tomorrow doesn’t mean you shouldn’t enjoy your macaroni and cheese tonight. They are, after all, both delicious. 🙂
I usually give homework with posts in A Clean Life…and this one’s no different! Take a few minutes to think about what you love and appreciate about your home. Don’t compare it to other homes you have lived in or want to live in…just think about how the home you’re in now makes you happy. And then think about how you, in ways that make you happy and work for you, can honor that.
Of course, you should feel free to write all of that down in your Clean Life journal. 🙂
And never, ever forget that you’re awesome. Awesome!
What about you? Do you love where you live? Do you embrace the quirks and oddities? What’s the weirdest thing about your house? Do you live somewhere super-spiffy? Do you struggle with loving your home and treating it well? Do you think it’s important to appreciate your home for what it is? Let me know in the comments!
You can catch up on previous Clean Life posts HERE.