#WeekendCoffeeShare: The One Where I Was Tragedy-Adjacent



Good morning, beautiful blog friends! I hope you’ve had a lovely week that has led right into a fabulous weekend. Let the dinosaurs pour you some coffee…as usual, they’ve done a marvelous job brewing up some deliciousness.


I’ve had a week of busy-busy-busy, but not doing anything particularly fascinating or exciting. Well, unless you find all of the background work for relaunching a blog and a business interesting…which I do…even if it is also exhausting. 😉


Of course, it would be hard for the week to live up to that spectacular visit we had to Wilmington last weekend. Grocery shopping and PTSO meetings just can’t quite generate the same enthusiasm that snake-viewing and crepe-eating can. (Y’all, seriously, John and I scooted into this little French restaurant, and it was amazing. Crepe au fromage and three types of chocolate mousse? Yes, please!) We also got to mosey around the Museum of the Bizarre (no pictures allowed), go on a ghost tour (fun!), walk along the Cape Fear River (which included a lovely view of the battleship), and lots of other nifty stuff. It was a (mostly) magical weekend. 🙂


Why just mostly? Well, I mentioned briefly in the comments last week that we were tragedy-adjacent while we were in Wilmington. After leaving the Serpentarium, we headed to the Museum of the Bizarre, which is right next door. As we were finishing up there, we began hearing tons and loads of sirens…like really a lot of them. When we went outside, we discovered that the little road we were on was covered in emergency vehicles and had been blocked off on both ends. Police officers were suiting up in some rather serious looking gear and had that “we’re gonna take care of some mess” look about them. (You know the look I’m talking about, right?)  Not having a lot of options (and not being altogether as un-nosy as we might would like to be), we stood around for a bit and listened to people speculate as to what was happening. The crowd seemed divided in their theories…as it was feeding day for the animals in the Serpentarium, some people thought a snake had bitten someone and escaped into the museum…others thought one of the crocodiles or alligators had attacked someone. Everyone was pretty certain, though, that one of the deadly animals in the museum had unleashed some sort of anti-human whooping on someone.


Without finding out what had happened, we managed to wriggle our way out of the area (which really took some doing).


Well, later on in the day, I was looking at the news for the area and found out that the reason for all of the mayhem had nothing to do with naughty snakes or feisty crocodiles. The owner of the Serpentarium had been shot and killed by his wife! How awful is that? I have no idea what the circumstances were (nor do I need to know, of course). For reasons unknown to my brain, I’m still a little freaked out that someone was murdered so close to me that the distance would be measured in feet.


I was also super-worried about all of those majestic animals, but it turns out that the Serpentarium is staying open for now, and the animals continue to be well cared for by friends of the owner. (Shew! I imagine it’s not easy to find alternate arrangements for a bunch of venomous snakes and bite-y critters, so I’m super-happy they’re being cared for.)


As for the owner’s family, I suspect things are chaotic and crazed and confused, and I do hope they find some answers and peace as soon as reasonably possible.


So, yeah, an overall lovely and super-fun trip seasoned with some serious thoughts about mortality and humanity and proximity.


And that makes me wonder about your experiences. Have you ever been tragedy-adjacent? (I actually have been several times, so I’m not sure if it’s a common experience or if I have really strange “luck.”) If you have been, did it freak you out a bit, or did you just keep moving along? Speaking of moving along, are you a “stop and watch” sort? Or do you prefer to keep moving and mind your own business? (I’ll admit, I am a curious sort…and I always want to help if I can.)




Okay, now that I have us all thinking about tragedy, death, and murder (and possibly being attacked by snakes and alligators), what has your week been like? What have you been up to? Anything fun or interesting or amazing or thought-provoking? Tell us all about it while the dinosaurs pour you some fresh coffee. 🙂



And until we chat again, I hope you have an amazing week full of love and hugs and giggles and learning and fun! ♥




  • trentpmcd May 20, 2017 at 8:45 am

    I know I commented before about it, but most of the weekend sounds great, but a bit of murder is much better in fiction than in real life! Pretty awful. I do hope someone decides to take over the Serpentarium.

    Anyway, I hope you have a good weekend!

    • Nerd in the Brain May 20, 2017 at 8:55 am

      Yes, I prefer all murders to take place in the imaginary!

      I am so hoping that someone will care for the animals long term. For right now, there seems to be no plan to close the museum, so I’m hoping all will be well on that front. (Of course, I have no idea what happens with the details of ownership when the owner dies and his spouse is in jail. They have a child, but he’s very young…I believe I read that he’s only 4.) Such a mess for so many people and reptiles. 🙁

      I do hope your weekend is just non-stop awesome…mine is starting with a wild and crazy trip to get office supplies and groceries…because I know how to party. 😉

  • Laurie Graves May 20, 2017 at 9:01 am

    Wow! What a weekend! And as you wrote in the above comment, such a mess for so many people and reptiles.

    • Nerd in the Brain May 23, 2017 at 1:49 pm

      Indeed! Us human types sure can make some mighty messes of things…and so quickly that it takes your breath away just to think about it. 🙁

      • Laurie Graves May 24, 2017 at 12:43 pm

        Oh, yes!

  • Pamela Morse May 20, 2017 at 10:39 am

    How bizarre to be involved in that while attending the Museum of the Bizarre…I am so sorry you experienced that…it is one of those unfortunate violent acts that seem to be accumulating around us. I saw a guy shot when I was 13, on my first night in Venezuela. I never forgot the sight of a dead guy on the ground in a white shirt covered in blood..

    • Nerd in the Brain May 23, 2017 at 1:50 pm

      Oh, how terrible! I’m so sorry that happened and that you had to see it. 🙁

  • The Snail of Happiness May 20, 2017 at 10:50 am

    Oh, that’s a terrible thing to have happened. I always wonder about the mental state one must have to be in to do something so dreadful. I hope that their child is well cared for and supported through life – this would be a devastating thing to have in your history. At least the reptiles won’t be emotionally scarred and hopefully there will be someone willing to take over their care.
    So, moving on from tragedy… in coffee-related news, I have joined a club run by the coffee-roasters I have started buying from. Each month they send a different sort of freshly roasted coffee to try and my first one has just arrived: Fazenda Santa Barbara from Brazil (The coffee is shade grown and, as is required by Brazilian law, 20% is dedicated as natural reserve where native plants are able to flourish and no coffee planting is allowed.) We have to wait to taste it, though, as the flavours develop about 10 days after roasting and it was roasted on 17 May.

    • Nerd in the Brain May 23, 2017 at 1:56 pm

      I’ve been wondering a lot about that little boy…from reading about the situation, I know he has family in South America, but I have no idea if they’re able (or willing) to bring him there. I sure hope they are…or that the little one has more family somewhere here in the U.S.

      So far, it looks like the reptiles will continue to be cared for indefinitely. We’re planning to make a return trip to Wilmington in a few weeks, so we called to ask the status of the museum, and it appears that everything is running as normal and staying open. (Great news as I’m guessing there aren’t a whole lot of takers for the “Do you want to adopt a deadly snake?” request.)

      Your coffee club sounds amazing! Can’t wait to hear about its deliciousness! (Just 4 more little days until you get to try it.) 🙂

  • bettylouise31 May 20, 2017 at 1:50 pm

    Yes, being near a murder is awful. Growing up one of my girlfriend’s Father shot his wife . The children were present. I never saw my friend again and often wondered what happened to her.
    One of my Grandfather was shot to death. The sad part he bleed out. Alcohol was involved. Left my Grandmother with 5 children at home. My Mother was 13 and had to testify at his two trails.

    • Nerd in the Brain May 23, 2017 at 1:57 pm

      Oh, both of those situations sound just awful! 🙁

  • Tara May 20, 2017 at 4:16 pm

    I was tragedy-adjacent when a train ran over a woman (I only saw a sheet on the tracks and not the actual event). Last month, I wrote about being emergency-adjacent. Never fun. But life..

    Hope you have a better week this week.

    • Nerd in the Brain May 23, 2017 at 1:59 pm

      Oh my goodness…I’m so glad you didn’t witness the actual event, but it still seems like something that will be stuck in your brain forever. 🙁

      I hope your week is a beautiful one free of all tragedies and emergencies (even if they are just adjacent ones)!

  • Carol May 21, 2017 at 10:30 am

    Tragedy-adjacent is a new term to me. I do not believe I have been present when such a tragedy occurred. I seem to always come by during the aftermath. Car accidents specifically. Sorry you had to experience that first hand. Hope all works out for the best of all involved. So much violence in the world nowadays.

    • Nerd in the Brain May 23, 2017 at 2:07 pm

      Yeah, tragedy-adjacent is just my nicer way of saying, “Some crazy mess went down in my vicinity, but it didn’t actually involve me in any way.” I seem to be some sort of frightening magnet-y vortex of tragedy-adjacency…for example, one street that I lived on in my 20s had two separate houses completely blow up…at different times with very different causes. I don’t mean they caught on fire or had a pop in the water heater cabinet…they seriously blew up…like busted out windows in houses all around the neighborhood and finding debris in the lawn kind of blew up. Yikes! I’ve been witness to so many car accidents that there’s probably a special file on me in some national archive somewhere or something. 🙁 So glad you’ve never been tragedy-adjacent! (And I hope you continue to not be!)

  • amiewrites74 May 21, 2017 at 5:04 pm

    How tragic. I feel so terrible for that child. I hope that everything will work out regarding the care of the animals. Being close to such awful events certainly makes one think about life.

    I also wanted to say that I love Ghost tours! I try to take them whenever I travel to new cities. My favorites have been Savannah and Albuquerque.

    • Nerd in the Brain May 23, 2017 at 2:09 pm

      Oh, I am such a sucker for a ghost tour! They’re such an interesting way to learn about a town’s history…even if you don’t necessarily believe all of the ghost-y bits. 🙂

  • Lisa May 21, 2017 at 8:00 pm

    I’m so sorry you were so near such awfulness. I’m sorry for the child, and the reptiles too. I’ve never been near in proximity to a tragedy as it was happening but one occurred when I was a teenager that felt way too close. My step-dad used to run his auto mechanic business out of our three-car garage. He kept a gun in a safe there in case he had any problems and one night the man he trusted to help manage the place stole it, went home, and shot his wife and himself. This happened over 15 years ago, but it still gives me the willies knowing that a man who had been in our home plotted a murder/suicide. I hope you never have to be tragedy-adjacent again :/

    • Nerd in the Brain May 23, 2017 at 2:12 pm

      Oh, that sounds horrifying. 🙁 I believe I would have the willies over that, too!

  • Vinitha May 22, 2017 at 12:50 pm

    Wow, that was unexpected, wasn’t it? I hope no one murders anyone for any reason. It is scary. I will keep going, not the curious kind, especially when I travel with kids, I have no space for curiosity in my head. 🙂

  • kaycreate May 24, 2017 at 9:28 am

    I don’t think I’ve ever been tragedy adjacent, just accident adjacent. One time we saw a man get run over by a truck in a parking lot (person was backing up and clearly paying no attention; literally just backed over a human walking behind the truck!!) but he was alright. His leg was broken, but it certainly could have been worse!


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